Mahogany Misfit - Tuesday, February 17, 2009 at 06:44PM - 10 said something... - filed under Living Single!, Moving Email Article I'm In My New Place And No Boys R Allowed!
Well, I finished moving Saturday and I'm all settled into my stunning Scottsdale abode!
Male BFF was a huge help...oh except for when the movers were moving my bed and there was a pack of condoms underneath it along with a boxed up cock ring which he loudly referred to as "dick utensils".
I shoulda been embarrassed huh?
That aside, everything went off without a hitch. BFF was paid in pizza, porn, and a hug. Oh and I gave him the stupid cock ring since it was still in the package.
Anyway, I am so in love with my new apartment guys...it's huge! I'm using the second bedroom as an office/library for my fuckton of books and my computer...my bathrooms are adorably decorated, and I have already spent hours bathing in the deep, ginormous round bathtub in the master suite. It is so fucking fantabulous.
I looked around the other day and I felt so happy and so lucky to be here. September of this year marks a decade that I have lived on my own. Or maybe "struggled on my own" is a better way to put it! I know all too well what it's like to make a crap salary at a huge company that doesn't give a fuck about you and I definitely know what it's like to live in small apartments and feel as if you'll never have enough space. But two states, two thousand miles, and five apartments later, I am in a totally different place and yes I am relieved and happy.
The way I feel about this place is that it's so special and I have worked so hard to obtain the place of my dreams...and this is it and I don't want to share it. And what I mean by that is, no one that I don't love and cherish can ever set foot in my home again.
Aside from the cable guy and random service people, that is.
If you're wondering who I'm referring to, I'll keep it plain. MEN. Any and all male callers. None of them are welcome in my home and I do mean ZERO.
I quietly came to that decision this weekend after my new bed was delivered.
Having opened my home and my previous bed to men in the past isn't a regret. It is what it is. Those experiences taught me quite a few lessons- lessons I honestly needed to learn. But this new place brings out different feelings in me and I can't find the words to explain why. I can only say that the pleasure of being in MY home and in MY bed isn't something I'm willing to be so free with any more. Acess to ME will be severly limited because I am in charge goddamn it.
So whenever it is that I decided to take up with men again, there will be new rules. If we're simply dating casually or fucking casually, all of our interactions will either be at hotels or at his place. He will NOT have my address, phone number, cell number, email, NOTHING. Unfortunately men who have abused that access in the past have fucked it up for everyone. I'm looking right at you, Rob.
So it boils down to this. If I'm dealing with a guy, I will contact him when I want him and we will meet at a hotel or at his place. He will have no way to contact me and he won't be privy to my address. It will be completely one sided and I will have ALL the control.
My home is special and unbridled access to me is a privilege...this is the year new rules go into effect.
2009 is about change bitches!
A few naysayers who know of my plan think men will scoff at it. Uh guess what, I DON'T GIVE A EFF!
I RUN THIS!
Any guy who doesn't like this arrangement can HIT THE BRICKS.
This is my safehaven...and it's lovely and it's private and it's mine.
Mahogany Misfit - Tuesday, February 17, 2009 at 06:44PM - 10 said something... - filed under Living Single!, Moving Email Article 
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That's right! YOU RUN THIS!
You're making decisions that will make you happy and keep you safe from the nut jobs out there!
Congrats on the new place!
Wow, your new place sounds like your dream apartment. Good stuff. I'm so proud of you and all you've accomplished in your life! Enjoy it, u deserve it!
In other news...read this: You are going to get such a kick out of this idiocy...fucking breeders
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/article2233878.ece
I wish I had something to contribute other than to LMFAO @ "dick utensils".
Oh and congrats on your new place and you new stance on keeping these silly men at arms length.
. Acess to ME will be severly limited because I am in charge goddamn it. tell em girl!!!!! Do you!!!
2009 is about change bitches! I'm so with you on that :-)
Congrats on your new spot. Hope your new rules work out for you and allow me to say sorry for all of the prior knuckle heads you have "endured" over the past few months.
Tanyetta- Yes, it's a new day...I run alllllll this! ;-)
Vixen- I saw that story and my first thought was, the "father" looks seven years old and also, NOT OLD ENOUGH TO EJACULATE! WTF!
Kellina- Thanks, I think I'm starting to realize that a man giving me an orgasm or two doesn't necessarily make him worthy of having my number or address.
Thatgirl-Thanks cause I MEAN THIS SHIT... haha
K.S.- Thank you sir. No need to apologize for those men cause all the years I've "known" you, I'm SURE you're a different breed! ;-)
Awesome, I have new rules for 2009 myself. I am done breaking them for some guy and this time I mean what I say, dammit!
Congratulations on the new apartment! Count me jealous. =)
1. Congrats on teh new big, beautiful place that is ALL YOURS!
2. DO THAT SHIT!! If a man can't handle your set up, he can be KICKED to the nearest curb.
*sigh* Sometimes, reading your blog makes a Sista long for the days of single-hood.. Then, there are days when I'm actually glad to have my knucklehead husband around. LOL
~V~
I am so happy for you. I LOVE to read/hear when people are so happy and at peace with themselves. I truly wish that for everyone. It's the best feeling in the world!
If any man has problems with your arrangements then he is not someone that you need to be bothered with. But you already know that, lol. Let them scoff. Then they can keep it moving to the next one that is all too desperate and eager to bend to his will and demands.
I don't think men will scoff at it but many will try to change your mind. I adopted that rule some time ago but I rarely allow anyone to visit my home save for a handful and do mean a handful. Like five folks know where I live.