Mahogany Misfit - Sunday, June 29, 2008 at 05:29PM - 6 said something... - filed under Dating Email Article Twirling On The Merry-Go-Round Of Dating...
OK, so I'm getting ready to go on my third date in 9 days.
Oh, but not my third date with the same guy.This is actually the 3rd guy I've gone out on a date with in the last 9 days.
I'm tired.
My reasons for doing this is not to "find love". Nope. I've already caught that bug once this year and I don't care to catch it again.
Honestly I think I'm just doing this to keep myself busy. To keep myself busy and to distract myself from thinking about my ex.
I just want to date and socialize with as many guys as possible...not getting too serious with anyone.
I have to also admit that I'm probably going out with a fourth guy next weekend. He and I have been chatting and he is just adorable.
I hate that this makes me feel productive but it does.
There's something very ritualistic about spending the day getting groomed, making up my face flawlessly, picking out cute outfits and sexy heels...and then going to meet a new guy.
I'm starting to feel like this is my second job or something.
What's slightly bothersome though, is the fact that I'm not emotionally or even mentally invested in any of this. I'm not totally engaged in this process. It's fun but it's also empty. When these dates are over, I don't come home excited and hopeful. I'm just blaze about it all. No fretting about whether he'll ask me out again because again, I sorta don't care.
Truthfully, I kinda don't give a fuck where ANY of these relationships go...if they go anywhere at all.
I'm good at the dating part but the follow through part is non-existent. I don't pursue these guys after we've gone out. If they call to ask me out again, fine...if not, what do I care?
For instance, the guy I went out with last Sunday night was gorgeous and chocolate like I prefer my men to be, he's successful, and we had great, fun conversation...he told me that he wanted to see me again this weekend and that he would call.
He didn't.
Neither did I.
And now I'm going out with a new guy a week later.
Do you see the pattern here?
I'm going through the motions. That's it.
The date I have tonight is with another gorgeous chocolate man but an hour before I'm about to meet him, my mood is somewhat blank.
I'm sitting here blogging instead of getting ready.
I'm totally disconnected from this process so obviously all of this dating is not going to lead anywhere.
And for now, I don't want it to. It's easier this way...
Mahogany Misfit - Sunday, June 29, 2008 at 05:29PM - 6 said something... - filed under Dating Email Article 
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It gets like that sometimes.
Why don't you take a break from men and just hang out with your girls? If your heart isn't in to it - doesn't seem like a point to even bothering.
Well I would hang with the girls but they all have fucking kids and a husband! I hardly see them. And my only single childless friend is moving to California to live with her boyfriend in like two weeks.
it's going to get better! you're not a half ass type of person so, i know you will not keep doing this type of dating, etc.... for long!
this is off topic: i'm HOOKED on this fat man scoop/wife video you have on your sidebar. WHEW. ummmm...they are crazy! LOL :)
I tend to agree with Black Mamba: maybe try giving the dating scene a little break. If your girls are unavailable then maybe take a class or join a club that interests you. That way you'd get to spend some time just doing fun stuff and maybe make some new CF friends. It's just a thought. Hope you find a happy balance that works for you!
Yeah, it sounds like you are not enjoying yourself, and that is supposed to be the point. Dating is NOT fun, even though it is supposed to be.
Me, I just turned 30 late last year and I have no idea where all the guys are. I admit to being somewhat jealous that at least you can find ones you want to date.